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Physical closeness and warmth, particularly from a caregiver, provide a critical foundation for emotional regulation and attachment. Examples: * Children who can self-soothe often have mothers who are warmer and more responsive. * Unpredictable or dismissive caregiving leads to emotional dysregulation, as seen in angry or detached children. * Physical contact, such as holding or cuddling, helps foster emotional stability and security in children. Where does this idea come from? * Maternal A

As social isolation increases and supportive communities decline, people increasingly rely on their romantic partners to fulfill emotional connection and belonging needs once provided by larger social networks. Examples: * Modern lifestyles, characterized by long work hours, extended commutes, and fewer close community ties, reduce opportunities for building close relationships. * Loss of "social capital"—the continuous support and fellowship once offered by neighbors and extended communities

Attachment is characterized by behaviors that emphasize emotional and physical closeness, seeking comfort, and reliance on a partner for security and exploration. Examples: * Monitoring and maintaining emotional and physical closeness with a loved one. * Reaching out for comfort when feeling unsure, upset, or down. * Missing the person when apart. * Counting on the person to be there for support and security when facing challenges or exploring new opportunities. Where does this idea come fro

EFT focuses on fostering secure emotional bonds between partners, emphasizing emotional openness, attunement, and responsiveness over conflict resolution techniques or grand gestures. Examples: * Strengthening emotional bonds by addressing key moments of connection and disconnection. Where does this idea come from? * Attachment theory * Behavioral psychology * The human need for emotional safety What's similar to this idea? * Romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bonding * A

The perspective that love relationships are based on maximizing benefits and minimizing costs, treating relationships as transactional exchanges. Where does this idea come from? * Behavioral psychology * Economic theories of human relationships What's similar to this idea? * Tit-for-tat approach * Transactional relationships * Rational decision-making in partnerships “To some cold-blooded observers, love is a mutually beneficial alliance based on trading favors, a give-get bargain.” What'

The notion that emotions in relationships should be suppressed or controlled, with dependency on others seen as a sign of weakness or dysfunction. Examples: * Viewing emotional dependence in relationships as unhealthy, labeling individuals as “enmeshed” or “codependent.” * Advocating for self-sufficiency and emotional restraint as key to maintaining healthy adult relationships. * Therapists encouraging individuals to avoid emotional reliance on their partners. Where does this idea come from?