Relationships between Adults with "Controlled Emotions"
The notion that emotions in relationships should be suppressed or controlled, with dependency on others seen as a sign of weakness or dysfunction.
Examples:
- Viewing emotional dependence in relationships as unhealthy, labeling individuals as “enmeshed” or “codependent.”
- Advocating for self-sufficiency and emotional restraint as key to maintaining healthy adult relationships.
- Therapists encouraging individuals to avoid emotional reliance on their partners.
Where does this idea come from?
- Behavioral psychology
- Misinterpretations of emotional strength
- Independence
What's similar to this idea?
- Dr. Spock’s advice to avoid coddling children
- Stoicism in relationships
- Dependency as dysfunctionDependency as dysfunctionThe belief that healthy adults should be self-sufficient and that emotional dependency on others is a sign of weakness or dysfunction. Examples: * Emotional reliance in marriages was often labeled as "codependency" or "enmeshment," suggesting that such behavior was harmful to relationships. * Cultural and psychological views historically emphasized self-sufficiency, portraying emotional dependency as a flaw that led to failed marriages. * Terms like "fused" or "merged" were used to stigmatize
What's opposite of this idea?
- Romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bondingRomantic love is all about attachment and emotional bondingRomantic love is driven by the innate need for safe emotional connections and reliable emotional comfort, deeply rooted in human evolution and attachment theory. Where does this idea come from? * Attachment theory * Evolutionary psychology What's similar to this idea? * Maternal Attachment theory * The human need for emotional safety * Connection as a survival mechanism What's opposite of this idea? * Healthy love relationships are just rational bargains * Relationships between Adults wit
Where does this idea lead to?
- Emotional suppression in relationships
- Challenges in forming secure emotional bonds
Status: #idea
Tags: relationships, emotions, independence, suppression, attachment
References
Hold Me Tight by Dr Sue Johnson > Introduction