Relationships between Adults with "Controlled Emotions"


The notion that emotions in relationships should be suppressed or controlled, with dependency on others seen as a sign of weakness or dysfunction.

Examples:

  • Viewing emotional dependence in relationships as unhealthy, labeling individuals as “enmeshed” or “codependent.”
  • Advocating for self-sufficiency and emotional restraint as key to maintaining healthy adult relationships.
  • Therapists encouraging individuals to avoid emotional reliance on their partners.

Where does this idea come from?

  • Behavioral psychology
  • Misinterpretations of emotional strength
  • Independence

What's similar to this idea?

  • Dr. Spock’s advice to avoid coddling children
  • Stoicism in relationships
  • Dependency as dysfunction

What's opposite of this idea?

  • Romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bondingRomantic love is all about attachment and emotional bondingRomantic love is driven by the innate need for safe emotional connections and reliable emotional comfort, deeply rooted in human evolution and attachment theory. Where does this idea come from? * Attachment theory * Evolutionary psychology What's similar to this idea? * Maternal Attachment theory * The human need for emotional safety * Connection as a survival mechanism What's opposite of this idea? * Healthy love relationships are just rational bargains * Relationships between Adults wit

Where does this idea lead to?

  • Emotional suppression in relationships
  • Challenges in forming secure emotional bonds

Status: #idea
Tags: relationships, emotions, independence, suppression, attachment


References

Hold Me Tight by Dr Sue Johnson > Introduction