Romantic love is driven by the innate need for safe emotional connections and reliable emotional comfort, deeply rooted in human evolution and attachment theory.

Where does this idea come from?

• Attachment theory
• Evolutionary psychology

What's similar to this idea?

• Maternal Attachment theory
• The human need for emotional safety
• Connection as a survival mechanism

What's opposite of this idea?

• Healthy love relationships are just rational bargainsHealthy love relationships are just rational bargainsThe perspective that love relationships are based on maximizing benefits and minimizing costs, treating relationships as transactional exchanges. Where does this idea come from? * Behavioral psychology * Economic theories of human relationships What's similar to this idea? * Tit-for-tat approach * Transactional relationships * Rational decision-making in partnerships What's opposite of this idea? * Romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bonding Where does this idea lead to?
• Relationships between Adults with "Controlled Emotions"Relationships between Adults with "Controlled Emotions"The notion that emotions in relationships should be suppressed or controlled, with dependency on others seen as a sign of weakness or dysfunction. Examples: * Viewing emotional dependence in relationships as unhealthy, labeling individuals as “enmeshed” or “codependent.” * Advocating for self-sufficiency and emotional restraint as key to maintaining healthy adult relationships. * Therapists encouraging individuals to avoid emotional reliance on their partners. Where does this idea come from?
• Dependency as dysfunction

Where does this idea lead to?

• Emotionally Focused Couple TherapyEmotionally Focused Couple TherapyEFT focuses on fostering secure emotional bonds between partners, emphasizing emotional openness, attunement, and responsiveness over conflict resolution techniques or grand gestures. Examples: * Strengthening emotional bonds by addressing key moments of connection and disconnection. Where does this idea come from? * Attachment theory * Behavioral psychology * The human need for emotional safety What's similar to this idea? * Romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bonding * A
• Deeper relational connection through attachment awareness
• Understanding emotional needs in relationships

Status: #idea
Tags: relationships, attachment, emotional bonding, love,

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References

Hold Me Tight by Dr Sue Johnson > Introduction