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Romantic love is driven by the innate need for safe emotional connections and reliable emotional comfort, deeply rooted in human evolution and attachment theory. Where does this idea come from? * Attachment theory * Evolutionary psychology What's similar to this idea? * Maternal Attachment theory * The human need for emotional safety * Connection as a survival mechanism What's opposite of this idea? * Healthy love relationships are just rational bargains * Relationships between Adults wit

Atomic habits are small, consistent routines that form the building blocks of larger systems, driving remarkable long-term results. Examples: * A 1 percent daily improvement builds on itself to create significant progress over time. * Just as atoms form the foundation of molecules, atomic habits form the foundation of extraordinary achievements. * Small routines, like writing a single sentence daily or doing a 5-minute workout, multiply into bigger wins over time. Where does this idea come f

Focusing on achieving a goal addresses symptoms temporarily without changing the underlying systems or habits that caused the issue. Examples: * Cleaning a messy room achieves a short-term result, but without changing the habits that caused the mess, clutter returns. * Losing weight by following a strict diet is temporary if you don’t adopt sustainable eating habits. Where does this idea come from? * Goal-oriented thinking What's similar to this idea? * To-do Lists * Quick fixes * tempora

Goals focus on the results you want to achieve, providing direction and motivation for your efforts. Examples: * Setting a goal to lose weight or save money provides a clear target to work towards. * Goals serve as benchmarks for success and milestones in progress. Where does this idea come from? * Prevailing wisdom * Having something to work towards What's similar to this idea? * Vision planning What's opposite of this idea? * Systems thinking Where does this idea lead to? * Winners

Focusing solely on goals can create a stop-start cycle of motivation, hindering sustainable growth and improvement. Examples: * Many runners stop training after completing a race because the goal is no longer present to motivate them. * Achieving a goal may lead to complacency, as there is no system to sustain progress afterward. Where does this idea come from? * Goal-oriented thinking What's similar to this idea? * Milestone-based motivation * Outcome dependency What's opposite of this

The assumption that happiness is contingent on achieving a goal can lead to delayed satisfaction and unnecessary pressure. Examples: * Thinking, “I’ll be happy once I get that promotion,” postpones happiness until a milestone is achieved. * Focusing solely on goals creates an “either-or” conflict: either you succeed and feel happy or fail and feel disappointed. Where does this idea come from? * Goal-oriented thinking * Self-fulfillment What's similar to this idea? * Work hard now, enjoy l